#84: 10 Ways to Get Out of a Funk
As a brick and mortar business and online business owner and being a four on the enneagram, I feel. Deeply! So this list is something that I refer to often.
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Hey there, ladies, how are you so good to be back? I have taken a little break from the podcast just to reflect and be present with my family and my businesses, and just think about where I want to go this fall and how I'm going to make 2021 the best year yet.
So, hello. Hello. It feels good to be back behind the microphone. I hope you guys had a great summer. I cannot believe it's September 1st, but at the same time. It's good that it's September 1st. School year is always emotional. I am a mama of five kiddos. I have a senior this year, all the way down to a third grader.
And I know that this year is going to be a big year in all the ways I can feel it already. And I'm just gonna say it's kind of bittersweet, right? You know, what's going to be there. It's going to be this huge year, but it's all good. It's such good things. All good things. So I'm just hanging on for the ride.
Here we go. Today I want to talk about getting out of a funk. I don't know about you, but business ownership can be really hard at times and really, really, really awesome at times. And it can change within minutes. Multiple times a day, right? There are so many levels and intensities and emotions, and then the tactical stuff that you have to do.
Right? So sometimes it feels like a really lonely road because honestly, a lot of it is. We have to do a lot of the things behind the scenes. A lot of it is vision casting and strategy, and a lot of that sometimes is done by ourselves. So, with all that said, I want to talk about getting yourself out of a funk.
And when I say yourself, I'm also talking to myself because this summer was very emotional. There was a lot of different things happening behind the scenes, in my businesses that caused me to just really feel all the things. So I wanted to share this with you because these are some tips that have helped me and I go to often. So this might be a podcast that you come back to. I encourage you, maybe save it for on those days like, okay, help me out. What can I do? Because you can't stay there. Right. There's work that has to be done, but the mindset of keeping going. So I share this, because I know how important it is to have the right mindset, because if we continue to waffle or be in a negative space. We're not attracting great things to us. And that is where I was really struggling this summer. I was struggling in my head and therefore things were not happening like I wanted. And I felt like I was forcing it. And when you force things, nothing happens. And it just was this awful spiral and I needed to get out of it. So here are 10 tips that I have learned from mentors and coaches over the years, as well as a few of my own that I have thrown in. So here we go.
Number one, change your scenery. Now you can do this through a vacation, through a weekend away through even a road trip for the day, but it doesn't have to be that extravagant. It can be as simple as going to a different room to do your work. Or for me, going into a different setting to create. A different coffee shop, maybe going to an, collaboration, workspace, whatever is for you change up your scenery.
It could be, you know what, let's rearrange the office. And move the desk and chair in a different way because it just forces your brain to think differently and received differently. So change your scenery.
Number two, exercise. I am a huge advocate of this. I get up pretty darn early to start my day. My alarm goes off at 4:30, so that I am on my porch having my coffee by 5:00 AM. And that is my quiet prayer meditation time, and it is such therapy, but by 6:00 AM the latest I am walking and I walk for a good hour and that is my morning routine. And I do it every day, except Sundays, right. There was recently a day that I said, you know what?
I'm not going to go for my morning walk. I'm going to do some cleaning. And I use that time to clean because I was thinking in my head, I'll still be active cleaning. So I'll still get my exercise. But it was not the same. I did not have that productive, focused energy after cleaning. I was not able to focus and that morning routine of going for that walk and just zoning out or listening to a book or a podcast. I come home and I'm so dialed in to what needs to be done. And I'm so productive for the morning. So what is that exercise for you? Is it in the afternoon, evening, morning, whatever it is. I am such a big advocate for it It also helps your endorphins and your energy mood and oftentimes they'll take a second walk in the afternoon, like around that two o'clock three o'clock hour when I'm tired, because it helps bring back my energy so I can finish the evening strong with my kiddos or my students.
Number three, write it down, meaning write down your affirmations. This is part of my morning routine as well. where I, every day, write them down positive in the first person in the present tense. I write them in cursive because there's studies that talk about writing things in cursive that helped you right and left brain work. I do it and it's so helpful. And I can tell the days that I miss it, because sometimes things get behind or sometimes I take too long on my walk or whatever, but to really be consistent with that because you're feeding your brain, you're feeding your mind, you're feeding your heart and soul on who you want to be. So write down those affirmations.
Number four, you have to do small things in order to do great things. So this is to get out of a funk and sometimes we need to take things and bring it back and put it in perspective. A lot of times we just want too much too soon. And we haven't paid our dues or we haven't done the time or the energy or the effort or the research or the, the work to get it done. For example, you don't just save six figures, for retirement, you do it little by little and then over time you have it. So you have to do the work. You have to consistently do it. So this is bringing everything back in perspective, like hold up. And one of the great ways or tips that I do, this is where was I six months ago? Or where was I a year ago this time? Am I further along? Usually it's a yes. So that brings it in perspective to me. So do the small things to do the great things.
Number five, I love this one because I'm a theater artsy person. Do something creative. Whether it's writing or going to see a show or taking music lessons or painting lessons, you can go to those stores where you just do like a one-off painting class or go take a, like, my friend did this, like trapeze yoga class.
I I'm always impressed with her. She just goes out and tries these one off things. So fun and it's just so genuinely good for you getting you out of your circle out of your rut, trying something different, experiencing something different, seeing other people, feeding your mind with creativity and color and different places. It's just so good. So go do something different creative. And of course I'm an advocate, of go see a musical, but whatever it is for you to feed your soul .
Number six to get yourself out of a funk. I want you to really look at your calendar and your routine. Are you really optimizing your calendar? This is a big one. Because a lot of times we think we should have more or expect bigger results and we've really haven't done the work, which goes back to do the small things, to do great things. We, we haven't done anything to show for it. How much of your time is spent thinking about it? Right. There's a book in my future y'all. I have thought about that book so much. And by how much I've thought about it, I probably should have it like last year written out already, but I haven't. Okay. I've done a little bit of work on it, but it hasn't happened yet. Okay. So you have to really look at your calendar and really optimize it. So what do I mean by that? The most successful people are super smart with their time and they delegate everything. When they're going to eat, when they're going to exercise, when they're going to meet with their kids, one-on-one when they're going to have date night, when they're going to work on marketing, when they're going to do bookkeeping, when they're going to talk to their clients or their team. Everything is itemized in their calendars.
So its out of their mind and they don't have to think about it and it's laid out in a way in their calendars so that they can breathe. And it's not jam packed. There's breaks in there, but the breaks are scheduled. And that is a whole other can of worms with boundaries, respecting your time, not being a perfectionist, taking the time and doing it and getting it done and not letting it ooze over into other things and just being super respectful of yourself and your time.
This next tip in getting yourself out of a funk is kind of a piggyback on looking at your calendar and really examining it and optimizing it. So number seven is know when it's time to rest. Okay. So once you, when you look at that calendar and your schedule things, making sure you're taking the time to rest, but then being mindful that you know what you have worked this many weeks without a long weekend or without a weekend away, taking that time to rest and really resting. For me Sunday is truly a day of rest in our house. When the kids were young, it was family day. We didn't we didnt do anything. We live in a neighborhood where there's like oodles of kids. We live in the best neighborhood. My kids just play outside all day. But on Sunday, I was really back in the day, really strict about no, do not ask the neighbors to play cause it's family day. Everybody needs their time. And honestly, my neighborhood is pretty respectful of that. And then it gets to be like, you know, three, four in the afternoon on Sunday. And then we're all kind of sick of our family was the okay, go outside and play. But that is my house. And I am mindful of quarterly getting away myself, like just me, myself and I, or me with a girlfriend or whatever, and just spending some time unplugging and resting and rejuvenating. So be mindful of that. When you look at your calendar, know when it's time to rest.
Number eight, focus on your activity, not the results. When you stop focusing on the words. So much happens. First of all, you're not tied to the outcome, which is so freeing, but then you are focusing on the right things and I am a huge advocate for tracking your work. How many people came into your store? How many clients did you sign on? What was the activity to get those clients? That's what you need to track. What were you doing to get them? And how much of that work did you do to get the client? All right. So you have to go back a couple steps. And this is why this whole episode exists because I was in a funk. I was not seeing growth or traffic as much as I would like, but it came down to me not doing the work three months ago. I let my foot off the gas about three months ago, because summer was starting and five kids at home, lots of schedules to juggle all the things. And I purposely let off the gas, but I didn't think it would affect as much as it did. And it totally did, which then affected my mindset around my business and then the spiral happened. So because I did not stay consistent. The aftermath or the repercussions of my actions were seen three months later. So keeping track of your activity and focus on that activity so that you can keep going and keep sustaining.
Number nine, I love this one. Be generous. It works every time when you can go serve or give to somebody who needs it. It just brings it all back home, because why are we doing this? We're creating a business to thrive so that we can give generously. Most of us, I'm going to say, all of us listening to this podcast, you're that person you're creating a business for you and your family and your community. And you want that business to thrive, not just for you but for your family and for the people you love and your community so that you can give back. That's the whole big picture of all of this. All of us are generous people. We're hard workers. We're giving so much into our business so that we can give to our community and those that we love. So when we're able to do that, it helps our mindset as well.
And number 10 in this list of getting out of a fuck when we are overwhelmed you all that is really a gift of what we've been asking for. Now, overwhelm has a negative connotation. Okay. So you could argue that while you're just not organized and you're not delegating properly and all those things. But when we are overwhelmed, it is a gift of what we've asked for. Okay. It's what we've asked to be super busy and to have lots of clients and all the things. Being overwhelmed in everything is what you've asked for. However, success requires consistency. Consistency requires discipline and discipline requires doing the work. And when we do all of that, we will have a thriving business. And we may become overwhelmed and we may go into funks of not feeling adequate. Maybe we're struggling with the back office and things just seem chaotic or the customer journey isn't quite what we want or things happen. It's okay. It's okay. You're getting better each week, each month, each year, you're figuring it out. You're learning. And if you need help with that, I would love to be your mentor and coach and helping you create more time and freedom with systems and automation and helping you get some things off your plate with a team member, but being successful requires us to be consistent. And by being consistent, we need to be disciplined. And by being disciplined, we need to do the work. And when we are doing the work, we will have this beautiful business. And then we won't have as many mindset funks, right? So I want us to be thriving. I want us to be happy. I want us to be giving generously and I want us to be loving our business and not resenting it, but let's be real.
There are times when we are going to need these tips to help us get out of a mindset funk. All right. So number one, change your scenery. Number two, exercise. Number three, continue writing down those affirmations, even when they feel like, is this really working? Keep it going because you will look back and you will say, oh my gosh, this happened, this actually happened. Number four, do the small things to do great things. Number five, do something creative. Get out there and try something fun and exciting. Number six, examine your schedule and routine and make sure you are optimizing everything in your calendar. Number seven. Know when it's time to rest and make sure you are doing it. Number eight, focus on the activity, not the results. Number nine, be generous, donate some time or money wherever you are in your season of life. And number 10, remember. Success requires consistency. Consistency requires discipline and discipline requires doing the work. Okay. So when we feel overwhelmed, it's just a gift of what we have been asking for. And then it is our job to create less overwhelm by getting help. Getting systems getting automation. If you need help with that, I would love to be your mentoring coach.
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