Ouch... that hurt.
Have you busted your butt, and gone outside your comfort zone to do something you truly believed in, only to be let down by people in your circle who you thought had your back?
I'm sure speakin' to the choir. Most of you are in the dance field.... and let's be real, shall we? You don't just jump into the dance world without knowing that the road will be tough, bumpy, and scary world. Plus the scenery overall is pretty meh. I mean, dance studios don't vary that much...
(That's why the costumes are so sparkly y'all.)
But I do have to share something that happened recently. This past summer I have been reading, listening, learning, growing and building my businesses. It's been hard. It's been awesome. It's also been really lonely, and daunting and at times. At times feeling like nothing is working in the day to day.
SO, last December, two weeks before Christmas, I emptied my savings account to hire a coach. With her guidance, I launched my curriculum into the online world. I was able to launch my BoogieFit Curriculum to studios all over the world with the press of a button. Crazy! It was super exciting, and scary.
And now, 9 months later, I learned this past week that my awesome consultant left my email list.
My email list.
Who cares? right?
You might leave me right now.
I've had friends leave my list.
So why do I care, about my consultant?
Because. This is hard. It's still work and it still takes a ton of effort. It takes consistency, and guts, accountability... (which comes from you, so thank you) and sometimes it's very lonely. And I would think that my consultant would not only understand, but be supportive and encouraging. Even if it's just staying on my list.
So when someone that I thought would be my biggest cheerleader leaves my list, what do I do?
I whined a bit.
I emailed her.
Boom! Yup. That's right.
I was having a stupid pity party about it, and feeling like I sucked and wanted to know what I could do to make her experience better.
And what did she say?
This blew me away.
As a business owner, entrepreneur, studio owner, dance teacher, and mama, I was so appreciative that the time was taken to address my sniveling water works. It wasn't that she found my emails useless, or rambling, or that my content didn't have value.
It's worse... and yet, I totally get it. You see, we are always trying to be better. To learn from others. To grow and develop that little seed that was planted - perhaps years ago- into great, amazing, inspiring fruit.
Sometimes... with all that reading, and listening, and watching great content, your focus or goals get pulled off course. And guess what. You end up spinning your wheels. You realize your business, your great idea, your huge goals aren't being met because you keep running from one shiny object to the next. And this is exactly what my business consultant told me. In fact, it was because of my blog, that she decided to start her own video email to her members.
And y'all, this is the gem of her response to me, and quite frankly, I've been hit by it from all areas in my life these past couple weeks. Go back to what you wanted to do, or were good at and STAY THE COURSE. Do the daily activity you need to do to get yourself out in front of the pack. "It's the day to day work...
And guess what? It's true y'all. I'm seeing the beautiful fruits of my labor. My numbers are up over 25% this year. Consistency in the day to day. Every. Day.
So, listen to what's in your heart. Trust it. Go for it. And know that you will have obstacles... and unicorns aren't real. Everyone who has made it big, just failed and picked themselves one more time.
With Grit and Admiration.
Melissa - Creator of Boogie Fit Curriculum